Making a mistake in life can be one of the most distressing moments. We've all had those moments where something we've done comes back to haunt us, to humiliate us and discourage us. These choices can range from just about anything that we've found ourselves doing, from the person who we are dating to the grades which we got in high school or college. Some may be more influential than others and some may other cause us to cringe every now and again.
So, what can we do to get over it? Simply, change your mind about how you are looking at the problem. Easier said than done, right? Most of the time we've hated something for so long that it would seem like nonsense to try to see it from a different perspective.
From my own experience, I've had some incidents that I've seen in my life that have either destroyed my confidence or made me angry at myself for quite some time. Coming back from these is not a simple task that you just wake up from. I was stuck in a mindset for years until I finally realized that it was me who was holding myself back.
You see the after-effects for days, weeks or even years to come. The problem is that when you look back at how the decision you made could have changed your life you see it as some parallel self which you wish that you were. The point is, your seeing a different self based on an event as though that was the only factor which decided your future.
If you are trying to change your mind about something, you need to realize that decisions are as discrete as a red or blue pill which we take which changes the course of humanity as we know it. Life is a continuum, full of latent and active decisions which surround us each and every day. Anyone of those decisions may effect how the next moments of our life proceed.
Changing your mind requires mental and physical exertion. Many people try to explore new things and try to awaken the dormant spirit inside them. That may work, but that assumes that you're not really awake yet and you're basically trying to bury yourself in something new. Your mind is smarter than that. Unless you've suffered from amnesia, you're still going to find yourself in reflections of things you used to do. We've see health nuts break down and go on a snack craze. This may work for some, but maybe it's not for you.
To change your mind, you need to realize that there is a great expanse of decisions still to be made. Just like climbing trees, there is always a different branch to hold on to, but you're still in that same tree. I don't want you to forget who you are, but you need to see that you still have time to grow. Like I mentioned before, we've all made mistakes, but we're still growing and if you hold onto mistakes, you are trying to hold onto that same branch while trying to climb a new one. You'll remember when you were on that one and exactly what brought you there, and perhaps, in the end, that apple which you were waiting to blossom has finally ripened and your decisions won't be as bad as you thought.
Simple things like passing on that extra serving or picking up an old book may be the first step to improving yourself. You need to hold on to that image of where you could go now and forget all about the rain while you're trying to get there.
Take advantage of each breath you have and invest in yourself. Attitude about the future is what drives us to become great. Don't wake up and smell the roses, but just take a moment for yourself, pick yourself up, look back at where you don't want to be and get to where you want to be. Take joy in the journey!
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